I'm still pretty new to being a missionary girlfriend but as I've started this journey I've come across some myths about me as a missionary girlfriend. Everybody is different so perhaps some of these myths don't apply to all MGs but these are the ones that apply to me. Let me know of some other myths you other MGs come across. But here is a list of my current top ten myths about being a missionary girlfriend.
10. I can't focus on anything other than the countdown.
Everything about this statement is untrue. Yes I look forward to when he's done but I don't revolve my whole life to counting the months, days, hours, minutes, and seconds. Yes. I have a countdown. But it's there to remind me that life goes on and that we are getting closer to seeing each other every day. My countdown is used to help me have hope.
9. Distance makes it easier for you to stop loving him.
Actually I think it will help. It will help me appreciate what we have even more. I cherish his emails, letters, pictures, etc. more than ever now. The things he tells me through emails are so much sweeter than before. It's amazing to know that he loves me even though we can't see or talk to each other everyday. It makes me fall for him even more.
8. I will cry if you mention his name, family, where he is serving, missions in general, or anything closely related to him.
Yes. I miss him more than anything but I am stable for the most part. I actually LOVE talking about his mission and I love hearing his name. It makes me feel closer to him in a way. So don't be shy to mention him to me. I'm proud of him and I want others to know how amazing he is.
7. I can't watch any chick-flicks.
Um I LOVE chick flicks. Always have and I always will. I live off of them. Seeing them actually helps me some days because the girl and guy always have a happy ending. They give me hope. Some make me cry but that happened before I was with Wyatt, when I was with him, and it will continue to happen even as he is on his mission. So I'm always in need of a buddy for chick-flicks because I love them to death.
6. I can't listen to sad love songs, cute love songs or any kind of love songs.
Actually I can. They don't make me cry like everyone expects (for the most part). I love music and just because the guy I love is away, that doesn't mean I have to avoid a part of me I love just because they will occasionally remind me of him. I want to be reminded of him! Love songs being me joy, not sadness. Sometimes people are shock that the majority of my music is love songs. I'm telling you, I love anything to do with love.
5. I can't watch other couples because it makes me sad/upset.
Somedays this is true, but for the majority, it actually is false. It makes me happy to see that other people have found the same kind of happiness I have found. Just because I can't be with Wyatt right now doesn't mean the rest of the world shouldn't be with the people they love. That's just selfish thinking. I want people to feel the same happiness I feel being with Wyatt. They deserve to be happy and in love and I don't mind seeing it.
4. I am putting my life on hold
This is one I've been getting a lot. I am in no way putting my life on hold for two years. If anything, I'm trying to live it up now more than ever before! I have opportunities that I am taking advantage of. Right now I'm applying to go abroad for the summer. Next year I plan on doing a performing mission in the summer. I go to college. I work. I plan to travel. To me, that doesn't sound like somebody who is putting their life on hold, it sounds like somebody who is living their life. Just because my boyfriend is away for two years doesn't mean I can't do what I want. He wants me to be happy and he wants me to live my life. He doesn't want me to sit around and do nothing for two years. That would be crazy!!!
3. I'm putting my dating life on hold.
This is another big one I get and really all I say to people that tell me this, is that they are wrong. Now if you consider not going on dates with all different types of people as putting your dating life on hold -then yes I'll agree with you there. But really if we are saying that, then I started putting my dating life on hold ever since Wyatt and I started dating because I was only seeing one person. It's just like somebody getting engaged or getting married. They choose not to date other people anymore. Now yes, I'm open to going on dates within the next two years. Wyatt told me he doesn't mind if I do, and I think that can be really beneficial for the both of us. All I've chosen to do is not get seriously involved with somebody else.
2. I can't make it to the end.
Now granted I can't see into the future and tell you I will make it, but seriously this isn't something I want to hear. I love Wyatt more than anyone :) he's my best friend and I want to be with him for eternity. Big statement. I know. But if you know me, you'll know that I don't change my mind easily. With how busy my life will be the next two years, there really isn't much room for me changing my mind. Now I know what you're thinking. Boys. They can change my mind. Aren't I worried about that? Yeah, a little bit. But I've learned that if I live in fear of boys I'm just going to stress too much about things that probably aren't even happening. So just like everything else in life, you have to be aware and knowledgeable about it so that you can distinguish where you stand. That's what I've already done. So even though this is a bold statement, I'm gonna say it anyways. I can wait two years.
1. I didn't choose to wait, I felt pressured to wait.
I can tell you I have never felt pressured to wait for Wyatt. Not by friends, family or even Wyatt. We talked about it and he gave me the choice to wait for him. I made the decision all on my own. I'm capable of making my own decisions. I'm a big girl. Yes, Wyatt told me he hoped I would choose to wait for him but he said that he wanted me to want to wait for him. He had always told me that I am not tied down to him these next two years. I can live my life and choose for myself. So that's what I have done. I, Alissa Lopez have chosen to wait for Elder Wyatt Johnson and it is what I want.
